Be like the promontory against which the waves continually break; but it stands firm and tames the fury of the water around it.
“I am unhappy, because this has happened to me.” Not so: say “I am happy, though this has happened to me, because I continue free from pain, neither crushed by the present nor fearing the future.” For such a thing as this might have happened to every man; but every man would not have continued free from pain on such an occasion. Why then is that rather a misfortune than this is a good fortune? And do you in all cases define as a misfortune that which is not a deviation from a man’s nature? Well, you know the will of nature.
Will this that has happened prevent you from being just, magnanimous, temperate, prudent, secure against inconsiderate opinions and falsehood; will it prevent you from having modesty, freedom, and everything else, by the presence of which man’s nature obtains all that is its own? Remember, too, on every occasion that leads you to vexation to apply this principle: not that this is a misfortune, but that to bear it nobly is good fortune.
Meditations, Marcus Aurelius, book IV, 49.
It’s important(=hard) for me to remember that with everything, its the meaning I bring to this that creates the reality that I live with. Because, unfortunately, we all live with the reality that we create in our heads: how we internalize and create meaning from an event is the cause of our grief, joy, happiness or frustration. Tony Robbins and the emperor Marcus are in agreement on this, and it has that golden glint of truth to it. Truth almost always produces the same result it me, ” Dammit, I was hoping that wasn’t the answer.” Discomfort is the sign that you’re pushing into something important. Truth is invariably uncomfortable.